Confessions of A Latter Day Virgin

Confessions of A Latter Day Virgin

A Memoir

Book - 2013
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When Nicole Hardy's eye-opening "Modern Love" column appeared in the New York Times , the response from readers was overwhelming. Hardy's essay, which exposed the conflict between being true to herself as a woman and remaining true to her Mormon faith, struck a chord with women coast-to-coast.

Now in her funny, intimate, and thoughtful memoir, Nicole Hardy explores how she came, at the age of thirty-five, to a crossroads regarding her faith and her identity. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Nicole had held absolute conviction in her Mormon faith during her childhood and throughout her twenties. But as she aged out of the Church's "singles ward" and entered her thirties, she struggled to merge the life she envisioned for herself with the one the Church prescribed, wherein all women are called to be mothers and the role of homemaker is the emphatic ideal.

Confessions of a Latter-day Virgin chronicles the extraordinary lengths Nicole went to in an attempt to reconcile her human needs with her spiritual life--flying across the country for dates with LDS men, taking up salsa dancing as a source for physical contact, even moving to Grand Cayman, where the ocean and scuba diving provided some solace. But neither secular pursuits nor LDS guidance could help Nicole prepare for the dilemma she would eventually face: a crisis of faith that caused her to question everything she'd grown up believing.

In the tradition of the memoirs Devotion and Mennonite in a Little Black Dress , Confessions of a Latter-day Virgin is a mesmerizing and wholly relatable account of one woman's hard-won mission to find love, acceptance, and happiness--on her own terms.
Publisher: New York : Hyperion, 2013.
Edition: 1st ed.
ISBN: 9781401341862
Branch Call Number: 204.092 HAR
Characteristics: 295 p. ; 22 cm.


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Apr 02, 2014

Helpful info about childless Mormon women.

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ChristchurchLib Nov 19, 2013

"The author, a devout Mormon, who, at thirty-five, found herself childless, single, and still a virgin, must decide whether or not to trade her traditions, her family's beliefs, and her spiritual foundation for a chance at love." Biography and Memoir November 2013 newsletter

Nov 18, 2013

What a fantastic memoir! It is fresh, original, and unpredictable. I did not read any reviews or for that matter, even the jacket flap, because I did not want any give-aways to Hardy's ending.

I loved Hardy's voice, how she could be serious, playful, ironic, sarcastic, and at times heartrending. Certain observations grabbed me because they allowed me insight into LDS culture without that being Hardy's main intention. Take for example her one about LDS men: "Show me an LDS man who's wickedly funny, politically liberal, brighter than the average bear, and uncommitted to 1950s gender roles, and I will show you the shaggy tail and waddling gait of the Ailurus fulgens, its mischievous mouth rife with bamboo." And readers want for Hardy--at this point in the memoir--to find that oh-so-rare LDS man so that she can reconcile her faith and upbringing with her need for love.

Perhaps my favorite moment in this memoir comes when Hardy is surrounded by the sharks on a dive and as she swims towards them, comes to this insight: "How is it I can feel peaceful, glorified, connected in the literal presence of sharks? That next to them, I can forget to be afraid? And sitting still in the house of God, I feel myself drowning."

A spiritual quest, a quest for self-actualization, and a memoir that ends with the Hardy family harmony still intact: this is a terrific read, one that I will always remember.

Nov 06, 2013

One of the best memoirs I have read in a really long time.

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